I embarked on what was to be and still is an epic journey into the psychology of eating.
Therapist | Healer | Values Pursuer | Self-Compassion Crusader | Meaningful Life Coach
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As a woman and fellow human being I get it.
For far too many years I was a serial dieter obsessed with the latest diet and how this might be the actual one… that would lead to the ultimate holy grail of WEIGHT LOSS.
All in the name of being acceptable and good enough. For me, this meant being able to believe that I was a disciplined, organized, efficient, sexy, beautiful, and attractive, worthy woman who had absolute control over her life.
Since my teens,
I’ve enthusiastically embarked on nearly every single diet out there, pill popped, eaten vats of soup, powder shake sipped, restricted, portion controlled, weighed, starved, dutifully admitted my sins and shortcomings, hated myself when I put the weight back on, loved myself when it came off and placed too much of my self-esteem and self-worth in the hands of the diet gods. Can you relate?
After the umpteenth diet failure and an unwelcome return of the weight that I’d lost, I realised there had to be another way. Einstein’s famous quote about the definition of insanity kept ringing in my ears…. Doing the same thing over and over with the expectation of different results…
I come from a long line of women who have struggled with their weight. There are women in my family who hate their bodies, judge and criticise themselves, always talking about how weak and without willpower they are. These same women have raised families, been of service to others and achieved great success and yet they still define their self-worth by what they eat, what they weigh and how they see themselves when looking in a mirror. I have heard women in my family proclaim how ‘naughty’ they are when eating a piece of a cake on a special occasion or what a pig they are for eating a normal size plate of food. I know that feeling and those thoughts as I used to do it too. CONSTANTLY. Ugh, how exhausting and mentally draining.
I decided that I needed to get to the heart of who I was as an eater and to do whatever it took to change my relationship with food and my body. I was also determined to heal my lineage and have this love-hate relationship stop with my generation. I embarked on what was to be and still is an epic journey into the psychology of eating.
HOW WE DO FOOD
IS HOW WE DO LIFE
During this journey…
I learnt about Health at Every Size, Intuitive Eating, Self-Compassion and about the darker side of a multi-billion dollar industry that capitalises on your self-loathing and lack of self-acceptance. I learnt about how ‘Wellness’ and ‘Clean eating’ is often just another word for ‘diet’ and how we can become so obsessed with being healthy that we make ourselves miserable and unhealthy!
What we eat is only half the story of good nutrition. The other half is who we are as eaters. Have you ever thought about who you are as an eater?? Did you know that Stress plays a huge role in calorie burning and digestion? As does breathing, awareness, pleasure, meal timing and the speed at which you eat.
What I have also found is that when I take small steps, changing little things, heading in the direction of my Values and what matters to me, I become less stressed, more relaxed and kinder towards myself AND I tend to like and accept myself more. This takes intentionality, determination and a good dose of self-compassion and humour!
To help you learn how to treat yourself in a more compassionate and kinder way.
To help you heal your body image so that you can love and respect the glorious being that you are.
And to help you figure out exactly what your Values are – i.e., who and what is important to you so that you can align your life with what you actually care about.
WHY LISTEN TO ME?
- I have a Masters Degree in Clinical Psychology, with nearly 25 years of extensive therapeutic, counselling and supervisory/mentoring experience.
- General registration with the Australian Health Practitioner Regulation Agency (AHPRA) with endorsement as a Clinical Psychologist with the Psychology Board of Australia
- Member of the Australian Psychological Society (MAPS) and APS Clinical College (FCCLP)
- Member of the APS Psychology of Eating, Weight and Body-Image Interest Group
- Certification as an Eating Psychology Coach with the Institute for the Psychology of Eating, Boulder, Colorado
- STAP-accredited Supervisor for Registered and Clinical Psychologists in Australia
My invitation to you…
Are you ready to give dieting the big heave-ho and heal your relationship with food? Would you love to learn another way of treating your body so that you can ditch the pain and suffering?
If so, I look forward to hearing from you 😉
Wishing you peace, health and happiness
A little bit more about me…
Things I feel passionate about (in no particular order):
- Food and body positivity
- Health at Every Size
- Knowing my Values and how I want to show up in the world
- Compassion and kindness for both ourselves and others
- Mindful Consciousness
- ‘Wabi sabi’ – the Japanese philosophy for the art of finding beauty in imperfection and of revering authenticity above all. Acceptance of transience and imperfection. Beauty that is imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete – nothing lasts, nothing is perfect and nothing is finished (In fact I love this expression so much I’m thinking of getting a wee tattoo…)
- Real self-care that’s nourishing to our bodies, minds and souls
- Deep connection and relationships with my fellow human beings
- The planet and especially her oceans
- Animals and all sentient beings
Things I love (once again in no particular order)
- My dogs Monty (Scottish terrier) and Molly (King Charles Cavalier)
- My longsuffering husband 😉
- My two, almost, nearly adult sons
- Scuba diving
- Podcasts! And a good book
- Lindt 70% Dark Chocolate (Yum)
What we eat is only half the story of good nutrition.
The other half is who we are as eaters.
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